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Consider charities, asking people to contribute to your honeymoon, asking people to share their memory of their time celebrating through a picture or a letter

11. Or will you have opportunity to select a second venue?
Like with everything to do with your wedding, share with each other the “why” for your ideas for concept and style, and align the ones that most resonate for you both.

Keep talking until you hone in on the concept you both most like.
The following questions are meant to help you prepare for the period between knowing you’re going to ask your man to marry you and your big day. “I have learned how not to do that – I’m responsible for myself.”
Dale found that therapy realized how many blindspots he also had. From different price points, to including their presence at your destination wedding, to helping create your wedding experience.
You will want to be reminded of the people who attended your wedding, but gifts might not be the only way.

Price-points, types of venues, even home stays? Some gay men believe that being married can rid them of their homosexuality. What now?’”
Not alone
The first thing Shelly found were statistics showing how her marriage wasn’t going to last.
“I couldn’t fathom how a gay man would want to stay with a straight woman, and then when I started looking at things online, my fears were compounded,” she said.
Shelly joined an online support group comprised of straight women whose husbands came out as gay.

Your wedding should be a reflection of your personalities and lifestyle, without the burden of incurring debt. Dale resigned and started his own affirming and inclusive church, the Open Table.
”People started talking to me about how they were leaving the United Methodist Church because they were tired of the same things I was,” he said.

Will your work demands allow you the right amount of time to plan and take off for your selected date? He tries to convince you that all relationships have a decline in sex even when you've only been together for a few years.
He is turned-off by normal sexual activity and accuses you of being oversexed, aggressive, or a nymphomaniac when you have normal sexual needs.
His sexual performance is more mechanical than passionate with a lack of satisfying foreplay.
He claims he is "depressed" and will blame his depression or medication for depression for his lack of sexual desire for you.
You find sexual enhancers such as Viagra (sildenafil citrate) or Cialis (Tadalafil) hidden in his private hiding places, but you know he hasn't made any attempt to have sex with you.
He tells you that he wants you to use sex toys on him because he needs his prostate stimulated or because he likes kinky sex.
He erases the computer history on a regular basis.
You find pop-ups of gay pornography on the computer while he claims they are not his.
He spends excessive time texting people at irregular hours.
He starts to spend more time at the gym and works on changing his appearance.
He claims that he feels "trapped" in the marriage and won't explain why.
He travels a lot for business and you can't track his activities.
He says he is having a "mid-life crisis" and becomes moody and depressed.
He tells you about sexual abuse in his childhood/adolescence.
He admits to having a homosexual encounter in the past.
He uses the word "bisexual."
He visits gay bars claiming he's there only to hang out with his gay friend(s).
He watches porno movies with gay male scenes.
He makes continual homophobic comments or he makes too many gay comments in conversations.
His ego appears to be boosted by compliments from gay men.
These signs a husband is gay are not meant to be definitive.

Which elements felt like you? Kaye has developed the Official Gay Husband Checklist to help women know if their husbands are gay.
Signs Your Husband or Man May Be Gay
Kaye's checklist includes:¹
There is a decline of sexual activity early in your marriage that never picks up again. “It helped me to see that, ‘Okay, this could work.’”
When Dale came out, it was freeing, but he still had questions.

A completely DIY wedding can be just as memorable as a lavish, formal event. Delivery and transportation costs can add up quickly if your venue is tucked away.
Use photos from your engagement and your life together to bring your website to life. He doesn’t think people realize how many challenges and struggles they go through until a professional points them out, or until a huge life event happens.
“My coming out really realized how much we needed to do that together,” he said.
Faith journeys
Beyond what was happening at home and hearth was a religious struggle that Shelly and Dale both experienced.
They were both Methodists, and their journey followed the same path.

Many women find it much harder to accept that their husband is leaving them for another man rather than for another woman. Do you have people willing to help in the areas where you’re less than expert or don’t have a trusted partner?
How much time do you have to plan your wedding? What is that going to mean for me?”
Dale dove into queer media to help with not just answers, but general exposure to the greater LGBTQ+ community.
A year into their journeys, Shelly asked Dale to read a story from someone online about a mixed-orientation marriage where the wife gave the man permission to seek a boyfriend.
“She said, ‘I want that for us and you,’” Dale recalled.
Five years later, their home is decorated with gifts from a new addition to their family: Dale’s boyfriend.
A new addition
When Shelly first heard from Dale that he was ready to see someone a year after he came out, Shelly said she was happy, but she took it harder than she expected.